Valentine's date, a phone call away!
Let's face it, a Valentine date will not drop out of the sky and if you have the number that makes your heart skip a beat, just pick up the phone and dial away
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Just the thought of calling the girl of your dreams and asking her out on a date is enough to give you the heebie-jeebies. But let's face it, a Valentine's day date will not drop out of the sky and if you have the number that makes your heart skip a beat, just pick up the phone and dial away. If she says 'No', you won't lose face here, well 'cause you won't be face to face! Here are a few tips to help you make the call and come out a winner with a trophy date.
Do the legwork: Don't forget to find out all you can about the girl or the guy you want to ask out on a date. Does he or she have a girlfriend or a boyfriend? Is there trouble in that paradise? If you're not certain about this bit, better cushion your question in more general terms rather than coming on real strong.
Be Casual: Look for a pleasant note of surprise in the other person's voice and take up the cue from there. In any scenario, do not be bashful and spill your heart out because you don't have the advantage of the subtleties of expression and body language here and you don't wanna make a fool of yourself. Pick up a thread from the last meeting or talk about a common friend and let the matter of Valentine day casually slip in. 'So you've got plans for the Valentine's Day?' …
Be prepared: Prepare a rough blueprint of what you're going to say on the phone. Practice in front of the mirror or talk it out with a friend. Perfect the tone of the conversation from your side.
Calling a phony: One generally tends to resist an unexpected proposal for a date with someone one doesn't know too well. Learn to playfully work around such hiccups. "Tomorrow afternoon is busy, can't say anything about lunch…" can be countered with, "So let's meet for a quick coffee…" But if repeatedly she or he is putting down all requests, then leave the persuasion and retreat. Never play havoc with your own image in this person's eyes.
End the call on your terms: Whether the answer is 'Yes' or 'No', make sure that since you called up, you must be the one to end the call. Do not push your case if the answer is No. Be graceful enough to accept the consequences. 'I guess you have plans then. See you around…' Let the other person know that you are not devastated by the rejection. Again be reasonably happy about an affirmative response. Don't drop the phone or start stammering if she or he says yes.
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